Here I go again on my own

The Covid pandemic forced us into an existential state of mind. “Why am I here on earth? What is really important to me? If I die today, will I feel I left a positive mark on earth?”

Parts of Rona were positive and other parts were traumatic and filled with fear, uncertainty and possible early death. Dinners together as a family promoted a renewal of bonds within our nuclear families. Less sporting events, less social outings and less external distractions forced us into self reflection and rest. As a global society, we were forced to re-evaluate values, work and what really matters to us in our short life here on earth.

Some of us have re-engaged entirely. The external pressures to overcommit ourselves and our kids is intense. Some of us prefer more solitude and will say no to external activities.

What is a healthy does of social engagement versus alone time?

Activity and socializing prove positive for your brain health, on the flip side too much can drain you mentally. When is too much external stimulation too much? When your body feels fatigue, tired and achy, your body is signaling to you, please rest, decompress and disengage.

Why do we not listen to our body’s signals? FOMO, Fear of Missing out and fear of disappointing others prevents us from self isolation and self care. We don’t want to miss out on the fun stuff and we don’t want to let down people.

David tells us, “He makes me lie down in green pastures and leads me beside quiet waters.” Psalm 23:2.

Jesus, “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.”

Both David and Jesus took time to be disengaged from people.

Our body’s nervous system, needs a balance of socialization and isolation in order to regulate the cortisol levels. It is not only good for the soul; it is good for your mental health to isolate and rest.

So go ahead and walk alone, your body and soul will thank you.